[CN: transmisogyny, gender policing, parental abuse, family violence, suicide, depression]
The violence wrought on trans*folk and particularly trans women of color should be identified as a pandemic. I have absolutely no patience for anyone castigating suicide as “selfish,” or saying “it gets better,” or saying “her parents’ beliefs should be respected,” or saying “depression is a mental illness.” All are dismissive and victim-blaming tactics that distract us from the societal norms that are to blame.
Something brought up by the WGS students in the thesis seminar I took, which was centered on Our Bodies Ourselves: There is an oppressing silence on family violence that isn’t sexual. The subtle ways in which parents control the bodies of their children, seemingly more out of narcissism than what they think is best for the kids, isn’t piquant enough to fit in the routine narratives.
And blaming it all on bigoted parents is an easy way to let individual failings obscure a cisnormative society that is complicit in in this policing/abuse/murder of trans women of color. The discussion is centered on this or it is centered on bullshit.
Words below the fold nah.